Leadership is a relationship, which means you have to do your part by assuming responsibility for continuously developing yourself into an increasingly interdependent and purposeful partner in the relationship. Unless and until you assume full responsibility for yourself, you force others to assume responsibility for you.
Work hard to liberate your leader from the burden of having to worry about how well you will perform and how much you will care about the work you do, those you do it for, and those you do it with. Give yourself permission to do this work free from external sanctions and rewards. The primary barriers to empowerment are between your ears.
Your choices, as much as anything else, determine whether you will be restrained or liberated by leadership. If you never learn to liberate yourself, you’ll never be prepared to help others do the same.