I’ve defined enemies very specifically as those that consistently put their own self-interest ahead of the shared organizational purpose. If you want to be a purposeful leader, enemies come with the territory, so we have good reason to love our enemies.
Even if we intend to be purposeful actors, there are times when we are the very enemy we think we oppose. All of us have an ever present motivation to act in our own best interest, and we are all very skilled at deceiving ourselves into believing its only other folks that behave this way.
We should learn to love confronting our own egocentrism daily in order to be prepared to confront the enemy in others when necessary. Our enemies will always choose a fight with the enemy within us over a fight with the purpose. Our ego is not worth fighting for, so always let them win that part of the fight early. Understand that the best way to keep your dignity is to lose your ego.
Make sure what you are fighting for is what is best for us and not just what is best for you. That’s not as easy as it sounds.